Safe, Not Stuck: Embracing Lack of Change

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Happiness, Hope, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Purpose & passion 16 Comments

[Update: After such a tumultuous 2020, as I and many hope for change in 2021, this blog about the wisdom of no change seems especially timely . . .]   As I ponder the start to the new year, at first, I feel sorry for myself. I make the foolish, painful mistake of comparing myself to others and focusing on …

Together, Not Tribal

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Difficult situations, Hope, Love & relationships 12 Comments

Watching the emotionally charged, blue and red state map unfold during the U.S. Presidential elections, it hits me how tribal people still are. Ever since the days of early humans, we’ve clumped in clans. Today, our tribes may be those with the same skin color, religion, economic level, politics, or favorite sports team, but we still perpetuate the age-old mentality …

Hope vs. False Expectations

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Hope, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Trust 4 Comments

What’s the difference between hope and false expectations? How do we know when to hope for the best and when we’re deluding ourselves? In each case, we’re throwing ourselves open to faith, to things we can’t control or predict. Is there such a thing as healthy and unhealthy hope, and if so, where’s the line?   On the one hand, I’ve often found the …

Faith Not Fear

When Your Faith Goes Postal

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Difficult situations, Happiness, Hope, Patience & faith, Purpose & passion, Trust 6 Comments

Have you ever met an earth angel–a regular person in an everyday place who says something deeply profound at just the moment you need to hear it most? Yesterday, my local post office clerk was that angel. “Keep your fingers crossed for me, Roy,” I said, handing him my book in an envelope addressed to a screenplay reviewer in L.A. …

The Light from Within the Tunnel

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Difficult situations, Happiness, Hope Leave a Comment

It’s 6 am, the morning I’m due to fly from Boston to Chicago for a cable TV interview. One thousand miles away, an FAA employee takes his own life by setting fire to Chicago Airport’s air traffic control tower. All flights in and out are cancelled. I get the last seat on a 25-hour overnight train. To my right, a petite woman …