4 Ways to Be Happy and Calm While Others Around You Are Not

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Difficult situations, Happiness, Health & wellness, Intuition & inner knowing, Letting Go, Love & relationships, Mindfulness, Reclaiming Yourself Leave a Comment

Ever been going about your day, minding your own business, when . . . BOOM! Someone suddenly dumps a load of negativity all over you? Whether they make it about you, are distressed by the world, or stuck in their own fear, lies, and complaints, you might get sucked into their overwhelm, anxiety, depression, or stress.  Rather than allowing someone …

Safe, Not Stuck: Embracing Lack of Change

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Happiness, Hope, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Purpose & passion 16 Comments

[Update: After such a tumultuous 2020, as I and many hope for change in 2021, this blog about the wisdom of no change seems especially timely . . .]   As I ponder the start to the new year, at first, I feel sorry for myself. I make the foolish, painful mistake of comparing myself to others and focusing on …

Conscious Recluttering

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Happiness, Health & wellness, Mindfulness, Reclaiming Yourself 1 Comment

There’s a lot of talk and bias in our society about the value of decluttering – our space, our schedules, and our lives. I’ve indeed done my share of clearing out my closets, shaking the blanket of relationships that no longer serve me, and winnowing down my to-do list. Meanwhile, I’ve learned there’s an equally valuable lesson not only from …

Herman the Avocado Tree

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Health & wellness, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Purpose & passion, Trust 8 Comments

Before my 80-year-old neighbor, Phyllis, moved into a home, she gave all of her plants to neighbors and friends. Ol’ Phyllis had obviously done that 5thgrade science thing where you stick an avocado pit in a glass of water then replant it when its roots start to grow. What she handed me looked like Charlie Brown’s Christmas tree: a bent-over …

Being Happy with What Is

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Health & wellness, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Reclaiming Yourself 18 Comments

Recently, a friend gave me a book whose core message was to appreciate what we have, instead of always focusing on having more and being more. My first reaction: Pissed. The author is wealthy. Easy to be happy with what you have when you’re sitting on piles of dough. The writer goes on to say that even people who are …

Let Your Life Speak

Laurie Gardner Being real, Happiness, Love & relationships, Mindfulness 14 Comments

I jogged to my local bookstore, toting a baked treat for the owner. At the door, I burst into tears. A small note by the “Closed” sign said she had just passed away. Yvonne was quirky, and brusque, and it smelled funny in there. But I loved that old woman. When I first hung out my shingle as a new …

Hope vs. False Expectations

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Hope, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Trust 4 Comments

What’s the difference between hope and false expectations? How do we know when to hope for the best and when we’re deluding ourselves? In each case, we’re throwing ourselves open to faith, to things we can’t control or predict. Is there such a thing as healthy and unhealthy hope, and if so, where’s the line?   On the one hand, I’ve often found the …

No Problem

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Difficult situations, Mindfulness, Patience & faith Leave a Comment

I’m sad to report that today, I was an airport asshole. As I stood in line for the ticket counter, jammed in among several screaming babies, frazzled moms with carry-on car seats, and a crew of eight buzz-cut army guys with two overstuffed duffle bags each, the wait around the four winding turnstiles to the ticket agents seemed endless. I …

Protecting Your Space

Laurie Gardner Difficult situations, Mindfulness 5 Comments

Last night, after doing a really fun dance workshop, I went to my favorite Japanese restaurant where customers can sit at the sushi bar. Where they first seated me, it smelled really strongly of something like a cross between ammonia and Glade bathroom air freshener. I thought maybe they had just wiped the counter, but then I realized it was …

A Bug Story

Laurie Gardner Mindfulness 10 Comments

Emma. That’s what I decided to name the unusually large mosquito eater that was zooming around my house. Those bugs are creepy looking, like spindly daddy long legs with wings, but anything that eats the annoying, disease-carrying stingers that constantly welt my sweet skin is a friend of mine. I turned around from my computer and saw Emma suddenly dive-bomb …