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Ever been going about your day, minding your own business, when . . . BOOM! Someone suddenly dumps a load of negativity all over you? Whether they make it about you, are distressed by the world, or stuck in their own fear, lies, and complaints, you might get sucked into their overwhelm, anxiety, depression, or stress. Rather than allowing someone …
Have you ever been with your family over the holidays, when all of a sudden, you revert to a much younger age? Maybe your parents or siblings say or do something that used to drive you nuts, and you find yourself becoming a resentful teenager. Or perhaps you slip back to your five-year-old self, trying to please everyone and keep …
Watching the emotionally charged, blue and red state map unfold during the U.S. Presidential elections, it hits me how tribal people still are. Ever since the days of early humans, we’ve clumped in clans. Today, our tribes may be those with the same skin color, religion, economic level, politics, or favorite sports team, but we still perpetuate the age-old mentality …
I jogged to my local bookstore, toting a baked treat for the owner. At the door, I burst into tears. A small note by the “Closed” sign said she had just passed away. Yvonne was quirky, and brusque, and it smelled funny in there. But I loved that old woman. When I first hung out my shingle as a new …
When I was 16 years old, I trained to be a lifeguard. The lesson on our very first day surprised me. In the movies, the rescuer shouts, “I’ll save you!” then dives in and swims madly toward the drowning person. It turns out that in real rescues, you only get in the water as a very last resort. Instead, the …
Trust is a tricky issue. If we trust too much, we could get burned. If we don’t trust enough, we could miss out – on important connections, lessons, and relationships. So how do we know when to open up and let down our guard and when to keep the protective walls up? You might ask, “What if my head answers that question one …
A heavy boulder dropped on my heart as I read the diagnosis. My beloved Subaru Outback, who had so lovingly and loyally stayed by my side for 17.5 years, was on her deathbed. Her whole lifetime flashed before me: all of our adventures, our experiences, our dreams and our hopes. Through all of my heartaches and joys, ‘Ru had always …
Have you ever understood a loved one’s situation more clearly than he or she does, but weren’t sure whether to say something or to bite your tongue? The other day, my friend was talking on and on in an angry, confused haze about her unfaithful boyfriend, and I just wanted to blurt out, “Dump the dirtball!” Last month, a couple …
As Valentine’s Day approaches, many people start to feel pressured or anxious. Those in couples often resent the huge price mark-ups and the imperative to do something romantic whether they’re in the mood or not. Single people often feel lonely and depressed, either rushing to make plans or giving excuses of why they don’t really care about this day anyway. …
Last month, I lived in Mexico. The last time I visited Central America, I went as a backpacker, staying in barebones hostels and interacting with low-income, indigenous families. This time, I lived with an upper class, Spanish-descent family, studied at a private language school, and taught at a well-funded university. Wanting to stay in shape while abroad, I enrolled …
