“After You, You Insist”

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Love & relationships Leave a Comment

A few weeks ago, my friend and I drove our cars to a mall so we could shop together before heading our separate ways.  As soon as we arrived to the parking lot, she accelerated past me to grab the closest parking spot.  Literally squealing her wheels to make sure she got the best space, she left me in the dust …

Pathways to Intimacy

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships Leave a Comment

Only a few days after New Year’s, stores are already displaying gifts for Valentine’s Day.  Meanwhile, several people are still “recovering” from the holidays, whether spent with loved ones or alone.  Perhaps that’s why I’m having so many conversations lately about intimacy.  Most of the discussions have centered on the best way to connect with others.   “How can I develop …

Ready for Love

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships, Trust Leave a Comment

A few weeks ago, I got a fabulous invitation to spend the winter holidays in Sicily with an Italian hottie I met there last fall.  As I was mulling over his offer, I got a very direct gut answer:  “No.  It’s time to meet the One.”   Although it’s tempting to run off to Italy and play, I’m very clear:  No …

Not This Time, Brutus: Preventing Betrayal

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships, Trust Leave a Comment

“Et tu, Brute?” says a startled Julius Caesar in the Shakespeare tragedy, as he dies on the point of his closest friend’s sword.   While most modern day betrayals are not as dramatic as getting run through by a sword, many of us have felt the pain of getting stabbed in the back.  Many betrayals take place in romantic relationships, such as …

If Adam and Eve Online Dated

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships Leave a Comment

Imagine if there was online dating back in Biblical times:   Adam’s first email to Eve:   Dear tempting1: I really like your profile.  Is it true you have a pet snake?   Eve’s response to Adam: Dear onemanonly: Sure is!  I love that apples are one of your favorite things…mine too!   Adam to Eve: Wanna meet me under …

Get Real

Laurie Gardner Being real, Love & relationships, Trust Leave a Comment

Why is it so hard for us to tell people our real feelings?  Whether we’re in a work setting, personal relationship, or family scenario, why are we so hesitant to be honest in the moment to someone’s face?  Are we afraid to hurt their feelings, afraid of confrontation, not sure what to say, or afraid to say something we might …

Cool Your Jets: Slowing Down in Love and Life

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships, Patience & faith, Trust 1 Comment

My upstairs neighbor has a theory.  “If you find someone you really like, you should wait 30 days before sleeping with them,” she told me over my kitchen table.  “It worked for me and my husband.”   I don’t know that I agree we need to wait a month before sleeping with someone.  (In fact, I like to kiss a …

Drawing – and Moving – the Line

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As I’ve been constantly accosted by Italian men on this trip, one of the major lessons I’ve been experimenting with is personal boundaries. On the one hand, arriving to this passionate country as a typical uptight American, product of the Puritan heritage, I knew that I had to lighten up and relax. On the other hand, I know that I …

Unleashing Your Passion

Laurie Gardner Love & relationships, Purpose & passion Leave a Comment

When’s the last time you had really amazing sex?  When’s the last time you’ve moaned in ecstasy during an orgasm or while eating or drinking something that made your toes curl?  When’s the last time you’ve gasped with delight at the beauty of a painting or sculpture, hooted spontaneously, or were moved to joyful tears by the colors of a really …