Safe, Not Stuck: Embracing Lack of Change

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Happiness, Hope, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Purpose & passion 16 Comments

[Update: After such a tumultuous 2020, as I and many hope for change in 2021, this blog about the wisdom of no change seems especially timely . . .]   As I ponder the start to the new year, at first, I feel sorry for myself. I make the foolish, painful mistake of comparing myself to others and focusing on …

Being Happy with What Is

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Health & wellness, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Reclaiming Yourself 18 Comments

Recently, a friend gave me a book whose core message was to appreciate what we have, instead of always focusing on having more and being more. My first reaction: Pissed. The author is wealthy. Easy to be happy with what you have when you’re sitting on piles of dough. The writer goes on to say that even people who are …

Let Your Life Speak

Laurie Gardner Being real, Happiness, Love & relationships, Mindfulness 14 Comments

I jogged to my local bookstore, toting a baked treat for the owner. At the door, I burst into tears. A small note by the “Closed” sign said she had just passed away. Yvonne was quirky, and brusque, and it smelled funny in there. But I loved that old woman. When I first hung out my shingle as a new …

Hope vs. False Expectations

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Hope, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Trust 4 Comments

What’s the difference between hope and false expectations? How do we know when to hope for the best and when we’re deluding ourselves? In each case, we’re throwing ourselves open to faith, to things we can’t control or predict. Is there such a thing as healthy and unhealthy hope, and if so, where’s the line?   On the one hand, I’ve often found the …

A Bug Story

Laurie Gardner Mindfulness 10 Comments

Emma. That’s what I decided to name the unusually large mosquito eater that was zooming around my house. Those bugs are creepy looking, like spindly daddy long legs with wings, but anything that eats the annoying, disease-carrying stingers that constantly welt my sweet skin is a friend of mine. I turned around from my computer and saw Emma suddenly dive-bomb …

You Are What You Tweet

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I’m a big fan of social media, but I must say, some of what’s out there seems like a bunch of meaningless malarkey.  Do I really want to hear about people’s delayed flights or whether or not they enjoyed their burrito?  Not really.  Not unless I’m the one picking them up at the airport or making their food.  And in that …

Marble and Mantras: Lessons from Mexico

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Last month, I lived in Mexico.  The last time I visited Central America, I went as a backpacker, staying in barebones hostels and interacting with low-income, indigenous families.  This time, I lived with an upper class, Spanish-descent family, studied at a private language school, and taught at a well-funded university.   Wanting to stay in shape while abroad, I enrolled …