Safe, Not Stuck: Embracing Lack of Change

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Happiness, Hope, Mindfulness, Patience & faith, Purpose & passion 16 Comments

[Update: After such a tumultuous 2020, as I and many hope for change in 2021, this blog about the wisdom of no change seems especially timely . . .]   As I ponder the start to the new year, at first, I feel sorry for myself. I make the foolish, painful mistake of comparing myself to others and focusing on …

Herman the Avocado Tree

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Health & wellness, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Purpose & passion, Trust 8 Comments

Before my 80-year-old neighbor, Phyllis, moved into a home, she gave all of her plants to neighbors and friends. Ol’ Phyllis had obviously done that 5thgrade science thing where you stick an avocado pit in a glass of water then replant it when its roots start to grow. What she handed me looked like Charlie Brown’s Christmas tree: a bent-over …

Being Happy with What Is

Laurie Gardner Attitude adjustment, Being real, Breaking old patterns, Happiness, Health & wellness, Letting Go, Mindfulness, Reclaiming Yourself 18 Comments

Recently, a friend gave me a book whose core message was to appreciate what we have, instead of always focusing on having more and being more. My first reaction: Pissed. The author is wealthy. Easy to be happy with what you have when you’re sitting on piles of dough. The writer goes on to say that even people who are …

The Big Duh

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I was visiting a quaint, historical city with my friend Suzanne, who had just slept over 10 hours that night.  Although she had managed to control the urge to check her Blackberry for most of ourbrief vacation, she made the mistake of sneaking a quick peek.   “Ugh, I’m so exhausted; I hardly got any sleep at all last night,” …

The “Poor Me” Post-it

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Plucky and freckled, my neighbor Lana is a young Irish gal who’s always making wisecracks and is quick to lend a helping hand.  Lana grew up poor, raised by a quirky single mom whom she says dated men “with more criminal charges than teeth.”  To help make ends meet, Lana’s mom would take her daughters dumpster diving.  Since Lana was the …

Seriously?

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As the woman from my health plan abruptly cut me off and put me on hold for the fourth time, I thought to myself, “Seriously?”  While normally, I’m a very patient, laid-back person, two things canquickly send me over the edge: computer problems and bad customer service.  It took two hours, three transfers, and five unfriendly, unhelpful service representatives to …