Valentine’s Day Attitude Adjustment

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many people start to feel pressured or anxious.  Those in couples often resent the huge price mark-ups and the imperative to do something romantic whether they’re in the mood or not.  Single people often feel lonely and depressed, either rushing to make plans or giving excuses of why they don’t really care about this day anyway.

I used to dread February 14, but not any more.  Now I say, “It’s the day of love, people!”

I’ve got it all figured out:  Extra-rich truffles in a large heart box, a dozen, long-stem red roses, and luxurious silk sheets on the bed.  Who’s the lucky recipient of these decadent overtures?  Me!  I was going to do all this on Valentine’s Day, but then I figured, “Why wait?”  Roses triple in price that week, and all the best chocolates might be gone.  I’m going to start spoiling myself right now.  (Another great time to buy is in the few days after Valentine’s Day, when all of the candy and roses are half price.)

In some countries, Valentine’s Day is about showing your love for everyone; it’s not just a holiday for romantic couples.  In my own family, we have a tradition of sending cards and little gifts to each other.  I’ve saved most of them, including the adorable handmade drawings from my niece and nephew and the heart-shaped potholders from my mom.

Each year that I’m single on Valentine’s Day, I hold a “U.F.O.” (“Unattached Folks Only”) party.  I and a bunch of my single friends gather to play games, swap worst date stories, and eat yummy food.  As a door prize, I ask everyone to bring a rose to give away to someone else.  Some of my best, most fun Valentine’s Day memories have been at these parties.

So, if you’re someone who usually dislikes Valentine’s Day, why not try changing your attitude and approach?  If you’re romantically involved and don’t like the hype, you could just spend the day letting your partner know how much he or she means to you, in whatever way feels natural and right to you.  If you’re single like me, perhaps reach out to your loved ones and let them know how much you love and appreciate them, whether they’re coupled up or not.  Most of all, on this day, may we all do something special to treat and honor ourselves.

 © 2011 by Laurie Gardner