One of my favorite quotes is, “We are not humans having a spiritual experience; we are spirits having a human experience.” From this view, we are just visitors on Planet Earth, here to learn life lessons so that we may progress as spirits. In order to survive in this earthly environment, we’ve each borrowed a “spacesuit” that we call a body. …
Pathways to Intimacy
Only a few days after New Year’s, stores are already displaying gifts for Valentine’s Day. Meanwhile, several people are still “recovering” from the holidays, whether spent with loved ones or alone. Perhaps that’s why I’m having so many conversations lately about intimacy. Most of the discussions have centered on the best way to connect with others. “How can I develop …
Ready for Love
A few weeks ago, I got a fabulous invitation to spend the winter holidays in Sicily with an Italian hottie I met there last fall. As I was mulling over his offer, I got a very direct gut answer: “No. It’s time to meet the One.” Although it’s tempting to run off to Italy and play, I’m very clear: No …
Not This Time, Brutus: Preventing Betrayal
“Et tu, Brute?” says a startled Julius Caesar in the Shakespeare tragedy, as he dies on the point of his closest friend’s sword. While most modern day betrayals are not as dramatic as getting run through by a sword, many of us have felt the pain of getting stabbed in the back. Many betrayals take place in romantic relationships, such as …
Don’t Forget to Party
This may seem like a silly reminder, but you’d be surprised how often we forget to celebrate. So caught up in achieving our tasks and goals, we check one off the list, then rush ahead to complete the next. All too often, we forget to pause, pat ourselves on the back, and rejoice. I myself am celebrating today. Exactly one …
Happiness on Hold
“Please hold. A happiness representative will be with you shortly.” Why do so many of us put our happiness on hold? How many times have I heard friends and relatives who hate their jobs say, “It’s only for another 2 more years, 5 more years, 10 more years…?” So many people I’ve talked to who are in relationships that aren’t …
You Already Know
My mind was full of questions and my body empty of food as I sat overlooking the canyon. During recent months, I had lost faith in myself and my life dreams. Was I really good enough to write a book that would inspire others? Would I ever meet “the One” and fall in love? I took myself to the place where …
If Adam and Eve Online Dated
Imagine if there was online dating back in Biblical times: Adam’s first email to Eve: Dear tempting1: I really like your profile. Is it true you have a pet snake? Eve’s response to Adam: Dear onemanonly: Sure is! I love that apples are one of your favorite things…mine too! Adam to Eve: Wanna meet me under …
Get Real
Why is it so hard for us to tell people our real feelings? Whether we’re in a work setting, personal relationship, or family scenario, why are we so hesitant to be honest in the moment to someone’s face? Are we afraid to hurt their feelings, afraid of confrontation, not sure what to say, or afraid to say something we might …
Cool Your Jets: Slowing Down in Love and Life
My upstairs neighbor has a theory. “If you find someone you really like, you should wait 30 days before sleeping with them,” she told me over my kitchen table. “It worked for me and my husband.” I don’t know that I agree we need to wait a month before sleeping with someone. (In fact, I like to kiss a …